Surviving Motherhood in the 21st Century

As a mother, I recognize that motherhood in the 21st Century is completely different than it was in the 20th. There is a lot more information available to new mothers, a lot more do’s and don’ts, as well as a lot of more “mommy shamers”.

Social media and the internet have essentially become both: the best and worst thing for new mothers.

Despite the new criticism that comes with it, the internet is one of the best resources that a mom can turn to, so use that to your advantage. You can find anything – from tips and tricks on being a good mom – to the best way to care for your baby even from inside the womb. A cave you will crawl yourself into and never manage to get out off from are sites share tips on how to the do’s and don’ts for a newborn. There are so manyAlong with new mom standards and tips, the 21st century has brought forth many trends, especially in the food industry. I myself have witnessed first-hand that 21st Century moms are being particularly careful with the food they are consuming and with reason. For example, two that I recently became aware of are two of the most popular and “trendy” items: sushi and coffee. These items, if not properly monitored, can be harmful to the baby.


Sushi, along with other raw foods which should be avoided, contains bacteria that can potentially be hazardous to your baby. As much as you might love going to your favorite, trendy sushi restaurant, avoid it for the 9 months you are carrying another human life inside you.

When we consume sushi, there’s no way for us to know the mercury levels of the fish in your sushi. Sure, some women will still eat sushi in moderation because they think it poses a low-threat to them or their baby’s health, but really careful moms choose to avoid it altogether to avoid blindly exposing their child to high levels of mercury. It’s always better to be safe than sorry!

Coffee: Here’s the difficult one to give up. Coffee. I love multiple cups of coffee a day as much as the next person, but once you realize you are pregnant, this habit has got to go! The main concern which arises with coffee is due to its excessive amounts of caffeine. When you are pregnant and your belly starts to pop out more, I more than anyone knows the difficulty it could cause with sleeping at night. You will for sure feel the need for a cup of coffee in the morning to get your day started after a restless night. Should this be the case, the levels of caffeine you would intake should not pose an issue.

As long as you are monitoring your daily caffeine intake and ensuring that these levels do not exceed roughly 300 mg a day, your baby should not be affected by your caffeine consumption. Aside from caffeine, alcoholic beverages are also a definite no when it comes to pregnant women (duh), no matter what the amount!

Along with knowing what foods to avoid, it is also important to know which foods can be most beneficial to your baby. Some of these food items include dairy products, salmon, and dark leafy vegetables. 

Dairy products can be essential in providing some of the most crucial nutrients your baby needs to grow, such as calcium, whey, and casein. Secondly, dark leafy vegetables and legumes are excellent plant-based sources of some of the most vital nutrients needed for both you and the baby. I know – the last thing you want to do whilst pregnant is eating “healthy”, but it’s important that you do so. Lastly, salmon can be extremely beneficial as it provides an excellent source of omega-3 fatty acids. Omega-3 is an essential nutrient that pregnant woman tend to fall short from due to the fear they have about eating seafood. However, when eating seafood such as salmon with caution, it can be extremely beneficial.

Food consumption is an extreme topic that many new and old mom’s, and even mommy shamers all have different ideas regarding. It has been talked about for decades. However, one of the most underrated topics I could not find while searching through the internet: how important your own personal hygiene is for your baby!

There aren’t many sites that stress enough how bad hygiene can affect your newborn. Sure, you might just want to lounge around in the same clothes for days at a time, but think before you do so. 

Dirty Clothes Affect Your Baby

Samantha wearing a size “S” in Toasted Almond. Browse now by clicking on her photo!

When you continuously wear dirty clothes for days at a time, you are just trapping in bacteria onto your own body. This is especially true if these clothes aren’t breathable, and restrict air from coming into your body. Bacteria are more likely to grow in humid areas. The same way you would want strangers to have clean, sanitized hands when holding your newborn baby for the first time, the same rule should apply to you.

Studies show that in their first year of life, babies come down with 6 to 12 infections in that same year.

You can avoid exposing your baby to outside bacteria all you want, however, you could as well be the culprit if your baby catches an unexpected illness.

Scented Oils, Gels, or Lotions

This might sound contradictory, but the same way that dirty, restrictive clothes can affect your baby, so can scented products. I know that I love bathing in scented shower gels because they smell nice, but never did I think that they had the potential to harm my baby! When you shower your body – make sure you are bathing with unscented, non-allergenic products. Why? Your baby is constantly touching your skin or breastfeeding. Their sense of smell is very sensitive during the first months of life, as well as their sense of taste. You don’t want your baby to be breastfeeding and for them to inhale or taste your scented body wash and perfume, do you? This could lead to a potentially hazardous situation for your baby.

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